When Your Gay Or Lesbian Child Marries: A Guide... [NEW]
When Your Gay or Lesbian Child Marries is heralded as the first book to look at the effects of same-sex marriage on the relationship between parents and their adult gay or lesbian children. It is also described as the first book to look at the effects of same-sex marriage on other family relationships, including the effects on the couple, extended family, and raising children.
When Your Gay or Lesbian Child Marries: A Guide...
Emotional fallout occurred when parents did not accept the marriage and made negative comments. Some young adults perceived that their parents were not as joyful about their wedding as those of their heterosexual siblings. Merrill urges parents to be accepting, or as one of the moms she interviewed said, "You have set aside your own feelings about homosexuality from your love for your child."
LGBTQAcronym for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer. The Q generally stands for queer when LGBTQ organizations, leaders, and media use the acronym. In settings offering support for youth, it can also stand for questioning. LGBT and LGBTQ+ are also used, with the + added in recognition of all non-straight, non-cisgender identities. (See Transgender Glossary ) Both are acceptable, as are other versions of this acronym. The term "gay community" should be avoided, as it does not accurately reflect the diversity of the community. Rather, LGBTQ community or LGBTQ+ community are recommended.
SOGIESCAcronym for sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression, and sex characteristics, more commonly used in countries outside the United States. Inclusive of all sexual orientations, gender identities, gender expressions, and sex characteristics, including intersex traits. Some also use SOGI (sexual orientation, gender identity) or SOGIE (sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression). The acronym refers to all humans with sexual orientations and gender identities, including cisgender and straight people. So when talking about people with marginalized identities, it is important to also use words that specify the marginalized groups you are referring to (e.g. transgender, nonbinary, lesbian, etc.).
QueerAn adjective used by some people, particularly younger people, whose sexual orientation is not exclusively heterosexual (e.g. queer person, queer woman). Typically, for those who identify as queer, the terms lesbian, gay, and bisexual are perceived to be too limiting and/or fraught with cultural connotations they feel do not apply to them. Once considered a pejorative term, queer has been reclaimed by some LGBTQ people to describe themselves. However, it is not a universally accepted term even within the LGBTQ community, so use caution when using it outside of describing the way someone self-identifies or in a direct quote. When Q is seen at the end of LGBT, it typically means queer. In a setting for support, particularly for youth, it may mean questioning. Ask people how they describe themselves before labeling their sexual orientation.
BEST PRACTICEgay (adj.); gay man or lesbian (adj., n.); gay person/peopleUse gay, lesbian, or when appropriate, bisexual, pansexual, or queer to describe people attracted to people of the same gender or more than one gender. Ask people how they describe themselves before labeling their sexual orientation.
While some in the community have reclaimed and use these words to describe themselves, the criteria for mainstream news media in using these derogatory terms should be the same as those applied to vulgar epithets used to target other groups: they should not be used except in a direct quote that reveals the bias of the person quoted or if a LGBTQ person uses the term to describe themself. So that such words are not given credibility in the media, it is preferred that reporters say, "The person used a derogatory word for a lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgender/queer person" except when a LGBTQ person uses the term to describe themself.
Thank you, this is how I feel. We love them enough to be uncomfortable but yet still tell then the truth!! This is a constant battle because the enemy is come to kill, steal and destroy our families and is constantly trying to deceive our children with thing that seem harmless but can utimately cost them their souls. What good is it to gain the whole world and yet lose your soul.
For you parents strugglingFor you parents struggling with this, my prayers go out to you. I pray God gives you strength, knowledge and endless amounts of love. For people believing that this is how God made you. My heart goes out to you. My God open your eyes. Satan has corrupted this world for so long things seem to be Gods fault and not his. My 18 year old daughter came out to me two days ago, trembling and crying in fear. What courage that took knowing my love for God and what His word says about it. All I could do was hold her, and tell her I love her very much. She knows how I feel. She knows I will not accept it. She knows I will never stop praying and talking about God and his love and grace. No words were spoken after I told her my love for her. She knew. I knew.Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
I understand how you feel. My 24 yr old daughter told me 2 days ago she is either bi or gay. She is recently divorced from a man. I think things started to wrong when she married him at age 19 and she found out while overseas in korea (he was in the military) that he was cross dressing. She was devastated and wanted no part of. When they finally left korea he was stationed in Colorado and things just got worse as he started telling her he wanted to her to accept him and love him anyway. He was also bi but didnt know this before they got married. She tried to stay with him and accept his lifestyle but said couldnt and moved back home with us. She is now divorced and is finishing college. I said Hallelujah she came to her senses and can now finally get her life back on track. But low and behold she meets a girl in her college classe that was gay and she befriended my daughter. I really think after she told her about her worthless ex husband my daughter became a target. Well thankfully that girl dropped out of school and moved to another city. Okay back on track again. Or so i thought. Well come to find out my daughter had been introduced to a lot of this girls gay friends and they kept in touch with my daughter. Then this new girl comes into my daughters life and she is gay also. Its like they were coming out of the woodwork and just smothering her with their affection and attention. And they wouldnt let her go. I really think they took advantage of her vulnerability of her divorce and confusion. So now she is telling me she is pretty sure she is gay and she has a girlfriend. This is so wrong on so many levels. I know my daughter was not born gay. I think she was exposed to the gay community and was manipulated into thinking she is gay. She had a void in her life and i know in my heart if a decent young man with Christian values would have shown up before all of this she would not be thinking she is gay now. Its this whole gay movement that is trying to increase their numbers so they prey on young people who may be struggling with relationships. Its almost like a cult. They give them everyhing they are missing out of life and make them believe they have always been gay they just didnt realize it until they met the right person. I love my daughter and i will not leave her side. But im so angry with our society letting this movement steal our children.
If you are in an intimate relationship with a person who was sexually abused as a child or teen, this booklet is for you. The information can help you whether you're male or female and whether you're in a gay, lesbian, or heterosexual relationship. For the purposes of this booklet we will be using the female pronoun.
You and your partner are not alone. At least one in four women and one in six men were sexually abused as children. As adults talk more openly about abuse and how it has affected them, their partners will come to understand how the abuse impacts the relationship.
Although we offer a brief discussion, this booklet is not meant to explain child sexual abuse. Instead it focuses on the effects of abuse on your partner and on your relationship. We strongly encourage you to learn as much as you can about how people recover from sexual abuse.
Child sexual abuse is the deliberate misuse of power over a child by an adult or an adolescent to gain sexual gratification. The abuser's power may come from being older, bigger or more sophisticated, or from being in a position of trust or authority over the child. The abuse may be in the form of inappropriate sexual remarks, fondling, and/or more violent assaults. Whether your partner's experience involved belittling remarks, uncomfortable sexualized interaction, one-time sexual touching, or longterm abuse, it is important to consider the way in which your partner experienced and reacted to the abuse.
If your partner has always known about the abuse but has had little or no feeling about it, she could experience a crisis when she starts to feel the emotional pain connected to the abuse. These feelings may seem overwhelming at first. She might find herself crying without knowing why. She might suddenly be afraid to be alone or withdraw from people. A counsellor can be helpful at this stage to help her learn skills to manage these thoughts and feelings.
When your partner decides to deal with the abuse, she'll enter a stage of hard emotional work. She will struggle with details of the abuse, struggle to express her feelings about it, and to integrate the memories. This means she has to acknowledge how deeply she has been affected by the abuse. She'll experience emotional upheaval which may include grief and anger. However, she'll probably be relieved, too, when some of her feelings and behaviours start to make sense to her. 041b061a72